I pursued some career opportunities that led nowhere.
I was robbed.
I tried to adopt a dog from a shelter and they decided not to give her to me.
I got dumped. Twice. By the same guy.
Oh, well hello there, Rejection. We have got to stop meeting like this!
All in all, not a great year in life. This all went down between January and October, so by the time November rolled around, I was feeling pretty sorry for myself. Wondering why nothing good was happening for me.
I started to realize that, to a certain extent, I am responsible for my own happiness. Yes, there are always things that are beyond our control. We can’t always have what we want. We can’t always protect ourselves from everything. We can’t get hired for every job. We can’t make someone love us.
But…we can love ourselves.
It may sound selfish at first. But if we don’t love ourselves, how we can truly love those around us? You will never be as close to another person’s faults, fears, and failures or dreams, joys, and triumphs as you are right now to your own.
Do you value yourself? You should. Do you think you are worthy? You are.
We have a mere hundred years, maybe, to live. Life is just too short to sit back and wait for things to come to you. Too short not to hope for things you deserve. Too short not to let go of the things that fall short of what you deserve. Too short not to be loved all the way. Too short to cling to things that have reached their end. Too short to make excuses.
In November, I had a lot of thoughts swirling around in my head, and they didn’t necessarily connect. Then I read this post. Which was shared to me via this photographer. When I read the post, I cried. Real tears…from reading someone else’s blog post!
Thoughts and feelings started to connect for me then. I can wait around as long as I want for something to happen. For things to get better. I can wait and wait and wait and then wonder why it is taking so long.
Or I can do something about it. I can take responsibility for myself. I can do things for ME. I can respect myself. I can really, truly love myself. And in the process, hopefully be able to spread the love to those around me.
Thus begins 2011. Year of new things. Year of respect. Year of self-love. Every month this year I’m going to be focusing on a tangible way to take care of the most important person in your life–YOU. I hope you’ll stick around for the adventure.
* Note: This series is appearing both here and at www.stephaniemeissner.com. If you happen to read both blogs, I hope you'll forgive the redundancy. Also, if you happen to read both blogs, there's a good chance you're one of my favorite readers... :)